Sharing and helping the poorest

 

In my book Turning International, I’ve tried to help people to understand why moving to a brand new place is so difficult at the psychological level. My point is that, whatever life circumstances, there are moments we need to focus our attention on  ourselves first. When we are healed, we can then open ourselves to our community and live in harmony with people who surround us. We can soon discover that we can actually do even better and reach other people. People we don’t even knew they existed.

If this is the good time for you to share with others, you can then join my new group Friends of Turning International on KIVA.COM and lend money to people living in the poorest places of the world. And there are plenty, unfortunately.

Thanks for your support!

 

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Turning International: New book

Thanks for following my blog! It has been a pleasure to write it and to see the growing interest for the ‘expat science’, the psychology of living abroad and adapting to new cultures seen from an experimental and social psychology perspective.

From this blog, a book was born, Turning International, which contains much more information. So if you liked the blog you will love the book. More details on the book content below.

If you have been interested in the blog and the book, please support me in writing a short review on Amazon.co.ok or goodreads.com or Lulu.com. The book doesn’t have much visibility yet and every review will help to spread the word.

Book Preview

On Lulu.com website, click “preview” (under book image) to read the first chapter.

An overview is in preparation for Amazon.co.uk.

Reviews

Reviews of the book Turning International can be found in two blogs by expat and international travellers writers:  http://www.adventuresinexpatland.com/wp/2012/09/15/riveting-expat-reads-turning-international/  and    http://iwasanexpatwife.com/2012/09/13/two-new-books-four-thumbs-up/

Detailed reviews are also found on specialised expat websites: http://www.amsterdam-mamas.nl/reading-2/parenting-book-reviews/book-review-turning-international and http://www.expatinfodesk.com/blog/2012/09/12/expat-book-review-turning-international/

Where to buy the book Turning International?

Turning International can be found in paper back on Amazon.co.uk, Lulu.com and a few other internet retailers.

Cost: 12.95 Pounds (equiv. 15,75 Euros, 20,95 USDollars).

Buying at Lulu.com enables me to get more incomes because there are less intermediaries. This provides also more money to the KIVA charity (about 3 euros per book).

Is an electronic version available?

A Kindle version is in preparation.

Book Contents

PART 1. INNER JOURNEY

Chapter 1. My Story

Chapter 2. The Arrival

Chapter 3. Loneliness

Chapter 4. Acculturation Stress and Chronic Stress

Chapter 5. Home Abroad

PART 2. SOCIAL LIFE

Chapter 6. Cultural Differences in Values and Attitudes

Chapter 7. New Language and New Interactions

Chapter 8. From Strangers to Friends

Chapter 9. Integration and Support Networks

PART 3. BALANCED LIFE

Chapter 10. Finding Strength, Meaning, and Balance

Chapter 11. Enjoying Life Abroad Epilogue

 

Where can we see that 50% book sales are sent to Kiva?

Check my lender profile on Kiva.com.

 

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Interview with Marian van Bakel: Expatriation success and relationships with locals

How to better cope with the absence or scarcity of social connections when arriving in a new country? Marian van Bakel studied this issue for several years and I’ve asked her what she found out and what she would advise for new expats to cope better with their new situation.

Her detailed results have been published this year in her PhD thesis, “In Touch with the Dutch: A Longitudinal Study of the Impact of a Local Host on the Success of the Expatriate Assignment” (Radboud University Nijmegen and University of Groningen).

CT: Where does your interest for expat communities come from?

MvB: When I was studying Business Communication at Radboud University Nijmegen, I found the intercultural communication courses the most interesting part. When I was then looking for a topic for my MA thesis, expats seemed a very interesting one. And I’m still not tired of it!

CT: What are the most important findings resulting from your PhD work?

Book In Touch with the DutchMvB: Putting expats in touch with a local host is a good way for organisations to help their expats prick the ‘expatriate bubble’, because it is not always easy for expats to meet the locals, especially in the Netherlands (Expat Explorer Survey, 2010). A local host helps expats communicate more easily with locals and learn about the host country.

Another important finding is that expats received social support from locals. Social support is a crucial resource when coping with the stress of an international assignment, yet in a new country it is largely absent, as expats leave their social network behind when moving to another country.

This study showed that a local host could fill at least part of this gap. Contact with a local host also made sure that expats remained open minded and proactive with regard to social initiatives, compared to those who do not have a host.

The quality of the contact was important: expats with a strong bond with their host benefited more from having a host than those whose bond was less strong – though even this bond was better than having no host at all.

All in all, this goes to show that arranging a local host is a low-risk HRM intervention.

CT: You have not interviewed a lot of participants. Why? And how did you select them?

MvB: The main part of my research was a longitudinal experiment in which 33 expats with a host were compared to 32 expats without a host. When comparing groups the way I did, it is generally said that each group needs to consist of at least 30 participants to be able to compare them and draw conclusions. As participating in a nine month project in which you had to establish contact with a local host and fill out three questionnaires was asking a lot of participants, and not every expat in the Netherlands could participate (see further), it was not so easy to find participants. I would have loved to have had many more participants, but this was just not feasible.

CT: Did some of your results surprise you… and which ones?

MvB: A first finding that came as a surprise was that expats in general tended to decrease on open mindedness (except if they were put in touch with a host), whereas I had expected that those who enjoyed a host would become more open minded. Even though expats might come to the Netherlands with an open mind, ready to establish a life here and make contact with the Dutch, those without a host find the reality of life in a new country more difficult than expected. Contact with a local host can counteract this, helping them to see the Dutch differently.

Another surprising finding pertained to the quality of the contact between expats and hosts, because about two thirds of the matches established a strong bond without a very elaborate matching process and without intensive monitoring. Hosts usually had travelled intensively or even lived abroad themselves, which helped because it provided important common ground to base the relationship on.

Interestingly, some of the friendships lasted for years after the project finished, in some cases even after the expat had moved again.

CT: What were your most difficult moments during this research?

MvB: The most difficult moments were certainly when I was looking for participants for my research, because it was not easy to find ways to contact them. I also had to impose some restrictions on who could participate – for example, a local host was not deemed very relevant for those who had already lived in the Netherlands for more than a year or who had a Dutch partner – which made it more difficult to find enough participants.

Happily I discovered that fairs such as Feel at Home in the Netherlands in The Hague and I am not a Tourist in Amsterdam were a great way to talk to expats and explain the research. That made it much easier to find enough participants.

CT: Based on your observations, and also based on what you’ve learned from other researchers during your studies, what would you recommend to an expat arriving in a new country?

MvB: First of all, expats and their partners should realise that the move abroad causes a significant change in their social environment for which it is important to prepare. Think about what is important for you with regard to your social life in the new country so that you can work on creating a social network that matches your needs.

Although it can be very helpful to be in touch with fellow expatriates, try also to get out of this ‘expat bubble’ and get in touch with locals. They can teach you about the host culture and also provide social support.

When reaching out to them, it is important to remember that locals have their established network of friends and family and are not necessarily waiting for an addition to their social network. That is not to say they would not appreciate the contact, but it is the expat who needs to make the most effort – at least at the beginning of the contact.

Take initiative and persevere!

CT: What will you do next in your career? Will you continue to study expat issues?

MvB: I continue to be interested in the expat experience, especially everything surrounding establishing a new life in a new country. One of the topics I would like to explore next are cross-cultural differences in making friends. The Expat Explorer Survey lists the Netherlands, Germany, the UK, Switzerland and Belgium as the five countries in which it is most difficult for expats to make local friends and I wonder whether part of this difficulty lies in simply not knowing the right way to make friends. For example, many expatriates in the Netherlands expect to be invited for drinks or dinner by their colleagues; however, this is not usual in Dutch culture where there is a fairly strict boundary between work and private life. I think it would be very helpful if we could give expats recommendations with regard to how to establish a new social network in their destination country.

CT: THANK YOU!

 Marian’s PhD reference and summaries can be found, including contact details: http://www.ru.nl/cvp/onderzoek/bakel_van_marian/

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How I wrote the book “Turning International”

My book “Turning International” is out! It took me in total almost four years to get it done.

FOUR years? How did I spend 4 years on writing a book!?

+ 1,5. From the idea (on summer vacation 2008) to the moment I sit down to start to write a first page and make the decision that I will work on it everyday, one year and a half have passed. Procrastination and excuses. I have no time yet to write it. Plus the fear to get started.

+ 0.5. About six months spent ordering and reading lots of books, and interviewing people face-by-face and by questionnaires, and organizing my ideas into chapters.

+ 1. One year and a couple of months to write it down. In the first six months, I was unstoppable. Then I started to loose focus. In fact in the meanwhile I thought it would be a good idea to also start a website. And then at the very end, I got sick – cancer – argh! Life has its own plans.

+ 1. And when you think your book will be on the shelves in 3 months or even less, you start to get some feed-back, and take it into account… and more feedback… Editing, editing, editing, then proof-reading, putting the manuscript into shape to send it to a self-publishing provider…. 3, 2, 1.

Hey it’s done! It’s in my hands, right now. It looks so simple. I am so happy it’s finished. Now it will get away from me and belong to my readers.

Enjoy reading it! You will find it on the LULU.COM website : Click here.

Or copy this link to your browser:

http://www.lulu.com/shop/catherine-transler/turning-international/paperback/product-20345804.html

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Participate to a study and win 25$ gift card.

This is a communication from a fellow researcher Brandi Eijsermans:

Do you think of yourself as an International? Seeking participants in a qualitative study on international identity. The study is designed to get a better understanding of the experience of international identity development, the international lifestyle experience and mental health of those who identify as international. There are some brief surveys to be filled out online before the interview.

These surveys should take about 45 minutes to an hour to fill out. The interview would last between 1 and 2 hours in-person or via video conferencing. For your time you will be given a $25 dollar gift card or equivalent in your local currency.

Schedule of International Interview Dates

Washington, D.C. – July 15 06:30-08:30

Kampala, Uganda – July 17-21

Cape Town, South Africa – July 22-27

Johannesburg, South Africa – July 28-August 2

Dubai, United Arab Emirates – August 3

Rotterdam, Netherlands – August 5 19:00

Paris, France – August 6-7 Berlin, Germany – August 8

London, Great Britain – August 10-11 New York, USA – August 12-13

Vancouver, BC – In December and January

Hong Kong, PRC – December 23– January 5

San Diego, USA – Ongoing Online Scheduling

To schedule an online interview via Skype at your leisure email the researcher : Brandi Eijsermans, M.Ed., beijsermans@alliant.edu

Questions About the Research: If you have any questions or concerns about the study please contact Brandi Eijsermans, M.Ed. at + 1 206-696-6912 or Marina Dorian, Ph.D., at +1 858-645-4630 during normal business hours PST.

Brandi Eijsermans, M.Ed. Alliant International University California School of Professional Psychology, San Diego Clinical Psychology Doctoral Candidate beijsermans@alliant.edu brandi.eijsermans@gmail.com P (206) 696-6912

**Protection of Human Participants**

This study has received approval from the Institutional Review Board of the California Professional School of Psychology at Alliant International University. To ensure participants’ privacy and protection in this study, the Ethical Principles of Psychologists and Code of Conduct proposed by the American Psychological Association (APA, 2002) and the guidelines of the CSPP at Alliant International University’s Institutional Review Board serve as the guidelines for conducting this study. IRB Approval #1980 —

Author of this communication:

Brandi Eijsermans, M.Ed. Alliant International University California School of Professional Psychology, San Diego Clinical Psychology Doctoral Candidate beijsermans@alliant.edu brandi.eijsermans@gmail.com P (206) 696-6912

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Better Decision Making in a Foreign Language

Have you ever noticed that you are more emotional when talking or listening your native language than in a foreign language?

When my son, who is trilingual, tells me ‘I love you  Mum’ in my native language, I feel tears coming to my eyes. If he says the same in his native language, English, I smile gently. I perfectly understand what he says. But my eyes keep dry. The emotions simply do not seem so deep in a foreign language, even when you’re a fluent speaker.

So be aware of the language you choose in some situations! This might influence the outcomes. For example, in business situations and whenever you need to take decisions.

A series of several experiments published by a team from the University of Chicago illustrate that the involvement of emotions in a native language and in a second language has implications in decisions making.

Typically in a choice involving a risk of loosing and a risk of making a profit, we all tend to be risk aversive. This result has become a classic finding for economists and psychologists. This means that humans are not totally rational and do not make choices based solely on their best statistical chances: Most of us in most situations will tend to avoid losses even if this means that we reduce our chances to get big gains. In other words we are conservative. Fear is a much stronger motivator than hope.

The researchers found that this systematic bias was reduced when negociations took place in a foreign language. The study was run in several countries and in various languages to prevent cultural and language biases.  They interpreted that there is less emotional involvement in situations where the interactions take place in a foreign language. In this case, this helps making decisions that are more rational, and less driven by the fear of loosing.

So while it’s frustrating to be often in situations where making jokes or talking about one’s feelings is made more difficult by the use of a foreign language, living in a foreign culture also has its advantages: by using a foreign language, you are slightly more detached from your emotions, including fears, and can think and act more rationally.

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You can read more here:

Press release:  http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/04/120425093938.htm

Original paper:  http://pss.sagepub.com/content/early/2012/04/18/0956797611432178

And to go further:

The risk versus gain paradigm is a very powerful way to study decision making and goes  far beyond the ’15 dollars bets’ that the researchers typically manipulate. To go further, you can read the superb book of Daniel Kahneman “Thinking Fast and Slow.” It’s written for a lay audience and explains how we make decisions, including of course, humiliating descriptions of our systematic limits and biases. An eye opener. In English.

 

 

 

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What factors predict sojourners adjustment? A new scale, the Sojourner Adjustment Measure (SAM).

When you are interested in understanding how expats and internationals adapt when moving and living abroad, you can search in the scientific literature for the key word “acculturation“.

Acculturation sounds like a complex concept but it simply refers to the adaptation to a new culture. And to adapt, people develop strategies, acculturation strategies.

Studies in immigrants have shown that some acculturation strategies are much more successful than others, but it is unclear if this is the case in sojourners, expats or international students. The two most successful acculturation strategies found in immigrants are:

-   Integration: When the migrant value the host culture and strive to increase relationships and cultural experiences with the host culture (learning and using the local language for example) while maintaining bonds with their home culture (meetings with co-nationals for example). Such a behavior is associated with increased well-being, less health issues in the long-term, and healthier behaviors (alcohol intake or smoking for example). This is by far the best strategy in terms of outcomes on health and well-being, compared to the other ones.

-   Assimilation: When migrants value connections with their host culture and are not concerned with retaining links with their culture of origin.

The least successful strategies, leading to increased physical and mental health issues (anxiety, depression or sadness, rejection of the local culture, bigger social isolation) are:

-   Separation: The emphasis is on the culture of origin but there is no attempt to create bounds with the host culture

-   Marginalization: when there are neither strong relations to a host culture nor to the culture of origin.

These results have been extensively studied by John Berry, a world expert in the psychology of immigration, and often replicated by other researchers.

Does it work for sojourners as well? And for expats, internationals, global nomads and the like? Some studies suggest that this is indeed the case, and that a poor adjustment is obtained when the original culture and the host culture are very different or when the language is difficult to master.

But there is a lack of systematic research on this topic. The population is heterogeneous, difficult to reach, and… mobile of course. But Eric Pedersen, fromUniversity ofWashington (Seattle), and his colleagues, took on the challenge.

They investigated if a new scale could be built to measure and predict sojourners’ adjustment. They studied American students who had just been studying abroad in various countries for a few months (average 3 months). They asked them to respond to about 50 questions. Then they selected the 24 questions leading to most consistent outcomes. Six main factors emerged from his statistics. These factors appear to be similar to the ones traditionally found in immigrants.

Four factors were found which are usually associated with good outcomes in immigrants:

-            1. Social integration with the host country.

-            2.Cultural understanding and participation in the host culture.

-            3. Language learning and use.

-            4. Host culture identification.

Two factors were found, which are usually associated with poor outcomes in immigrants:

-            5. Social interactions with co-nationals.

-            6. Homesickness, feeling out of space.

This suggests that in sojourners, the most successful acculturation strategy could be similar to what is traditionally found in immigrants. But there are still questions to be answered: Are high or low scores on these factors associated with health outcomes or behavioral issues in these young travelers? Would such a result be found in older adults, for people with a more extensive previous experience in travelling, or for people from other cultures?

Let’s hope that this new scale will inspire new studies!

 

My thanks go to the author who kindly sent me his manuscript.

References: E.R Peterson et al. (2012). Measuring sojourners adjustment among American students studying abroad. International Journal of Intercultural Relations, 35, 881-889.

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Back to work

After 8 months of absence, I am back. Back on-line on Expatscience.com.  And back at work very soon.

I am so happy to be alive after my long disease. I am eager to return to the things that I enjoy doing. Reading, learning, sharing.

I’ve just found today some recent papers about the predictors of a good acculturation in migrants, international students or sojourners. Give me some time to read this and I’ll share my findings with you in the next posting.

Tot Ziens! A bientot! See you soon!

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A long summer…

Dear readers,

I have not written much on this blog recently. This has been a very difficult time. In July, I’ve learned that I have an ovarian cancer. At that time, I had many projects in mind, including a book “Turning International” that I was just about to finish. Due to the disease, the treatment, the emotions accompanying this diagnose, I slowed down many of my activities.

Not everything was bad, on the contrary. I went for walks outside in parks nearby my apartment, when I was able to, and found peace and beauty there. My family and friends have been amazingly supportive.

I have started another blog, a very personal one, where I talk about my cancer and the things I learn as I go. Just a way to get the steam off and also to share my feelings with my family and my friends who live abroad! You can find the blog at:

www.etpourtantjeveuxvivre.blogspot.com

But I intend to continue writing about living abroad on expatscience.com!! At the moment, I can not dedicate time to it. But I hope that in spring 2012, I will be back here with new ideas, or sharing things I have read in scientific papers.

It has been wonderful to write on this present blog for several months, and to work on my book in parallel. I learned a lot, I enjoyed sharing what I was learning. I enjoyed increasing my own development by trying out all the tips as I read through some self-help books! So I really want to keep going! A bientot! Tot Ziens! I’ll be back on line!

 

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Anger and assertiveness, thank you Anne Dickson!

Funny how our body sends us messages that we can not interpret. Just when I’ve started to address the difficult issue of dealing with health systems and culture differences in doctor-patient relationships when living abroad, here I am, spending my days at the hospital doing one examination after another to get a grip on the origin of my abdominal pain. Doctor said it’s a tumor. After crying a lot, I’ve just felt like coming back to my blog anyway and continue my journey to explore and explain psychology. I’ve never been bored with psychology, and as I am busy reading and writing, the pain by magic diminishes… but enough of me.

Well, I thought that the next posting would be about Assertiveness, something that we really need to develop in foreign countries, and something very important to show in more individualistic countries (and the Netherlands country is very high on the Hosftede’s individualistic factor). In my workshops taking place in the Netherlands, new foreigners are unstoppable in their complaints against GPs, but the old wise expats and internationals know the trick. You have to really show you’re there when you want to get something in the Netherlands. Local people are used to express bluntly what they want, it is as simple as that. For a foreigner, it can require however a significant behavior change.

I really want to refer you to the excellent book of Anne Dickson “A woman in your own right”. Apparently it is classic in the field but until recently I hadn’t read anything about assertiveness, thinking I was quite ok. Oh dear I was really wrong. I can be sometimes pathologically nice, and I am not alone. In fact, probably every woman should read about it and practice! Actually…. men should as well! In spite of its title, Anne Disckon’s book is very relevant for men as well, so I definitely recommend it to anyone.

There is a fabulous small chapter on anger. As we live abroad, we experience a lot of frustration. Anne Dickson tells us that anger is made of two things: the deep layer made of positive and strong source of energy, and a “top layer of past and present hurts and frustrations”.

Here are a few important things I learned from this very brief chapter:

- I say “I am angry” when I am; at least I say it to myself if not to the person in front of me;

- No cry, no scream, no gritting teeth, and NO smile.Oh dear, I smile most of the time to the extent that when I used to work with deaf persons, I was told a few times that they couldn’t read my lips. :-) Oh no just did it again :-) Seriously, sometimes my priority must be to protect myself instead of pleasing others at all costs.

- No need to use sarcasm and hurt others. So I can get angry, and show it, without being destructive. So basically, it’s ok to be angry, because I will not hurt anybody, perhaps slightly annoy some people by asking them to change their behaviors, but that’s no big deal.

- Express my needs in “gears”: First gear: “Would you please…”. Second gear: “Would you please… because I want… because I don’t like….”. Third gear: “Would you please… otherwise I call a manager…”. Ultimate solution at the 4th gear: I do what I just said I would do, and no need to loose my temper about it. Just do it.

- Physical release. I love Anne Dickson’s advises on this one and I am so glad that she gave me her approval to do something childish. The idea is to avoid an explosion of anger at the wrong moment in the wrong place (office, supermarket…), and instead, to release the physical tension when you are alone. My favorite ones: go out for a run or a very long walk, or scrub my kitchen’s cooker. She also advises to scream in your car will all windows closed (I bike), push cushions, strangle a towel, hit the sofa with an old tennis racket, etc. This part of the book made me laugh really hard, I love these ideas! And I love it when psychologists take the body into consideration. Psychology is not all about thinking and procrastinating, it is full of action too!

All right, enough for today. I wish you good luck in your life abroad, and let’s enjoy life while we are still able to do so ;-)

 

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